Find Yourself First: Why the Most Important Work a Man Can Do Is Becoming Himself

I’m in my forties. And I’ll be honest with you about something that took me an embarrassingly long time to admit. For most of my adult life, I had very little idea who I actually was beneath the roles I was playing. I knew what I did. I knew what I was supposed to want. […]

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At Some Point, Joy Stops Being Loud: And That Might Be the Best Thing That Ever Happens to You

I was standing on my terrace in Barcelona, looking out over Montjuïc. Below me, the daily rhythm of the city unfolded. Kids running ahead of their parents. Couples walking slowly, side by side. Older men and women making their way through the square, unhurried. There was no event. No sunset to photograph. No reason the […]

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The Real Reason Socializing Wears You Out (And Why That’s Not a Flaw)

I used to believe there was something fundamentally off about me. I’d show up at networking mixers, cocktail hours, even laid-back barbecues with friends, and watch other men switch on. They’d grow louder, more animated, energized by the crowd as if they’d plugged into some invisible power source. By the end of the night, they […]

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